Never make decisions when you are stressed and everyone in your life thinks they know whats best for you.
I allowed everyone to control my life, tell me what was best, and what I should do!!
My house was having problems and putting on a new roof coast $20,000 dollars. I knew if I had other expensive repairs Id be in trouble.
I asked the realtor to find me a condo but she didn't hear me she only saw her commission for the home.
However I lived near the Saint Lucie River and many people were losing thier flood insurance or the premiums were being raised or doubled. Since I was retired and living on SS of $1000 a month it seemed overwhelming and the sale a good idea. Even though I took a low offer to sell. Thinking of being near family brought me joy. So off I went.
Hindsight is a wonderful gift but often comes too late to change anything.
Listen to people who know you and if they think its a bad idea think of other options.
When you age, your children become your parents
Your grandchildren if in thier 20's or 30's dont feel you have anything to contribute and treat you like your invisible and ignore you. Now this may not be everyone but at least 4 or 5 of my friends my age have had similar experiences.
Save your money so you can go back to where you want to be, even if you will be alone.
At least you will be happy and not feel rejected, lost, out of control and not like your a burden.
All that said I have had a good life, I have been blessed with up till now good health.
I just want to live my remaining years in warm weather with breezes blowing thorough my condo in the cooler weather. Maybe even visit family in the hot summers.
I decided to give it a year here and see how I feel.
If I left I WOULD miss my family but I wouldn't miss the lack of respect, and being ignored that they seem to feel is a normal way to treat me.
I am not without fault, and I am sure I do things to annoy them. I have my own area so hardly have any interaction with them so I am confused about what I am doing wrong, if I am???
The biggest mistake I made was not having a conversation with my family about expectations. Also document, draw up an agreement so they and you cant say "I never said that or they can't say your aging and you don't remember".
I am not sure what will happen in the 5 months. I did look up does anyone want to adopt a senior? Amazingly enough there were some sites that offered options.
I am praying for Gods will for me and trusting he will allow whats best for me to happen. Life each day is about Surrender and Trust. I am not religious but do have a God of my understanding and try to live a spiritual life.
Thanks for listening even if you never read this. Writing has always helped me find my way in life.
Be blessed, be happy and consider the lessons I mentioned if you are considering a major life change.
Try to do what your heart is telling you is the right thing and try to block out the voices that are not walking in your shoes.